Change yourself by changing your mind and the way you think

               This is an advice worthy to follow, actually it could be a rule to apply every day. From the time I discovered that it works, my life changed very much. Following the principle of THINK POSITIVE AND POSITIVE THINGS WILL HAPPEN made a big difference in my life.
               Many people can ask how could this work. My best argument is that we feel and our disposition is how we want. If from the morning we set our mind that we will have a good day, than it will be good. Of course we should know what are the things that can make our day a good one. Once we know it, our mind will be set to do those things, so the success is much more probable than as if we would start in the morning thinking about what we can't do. As much we wish positive things to happen, we will attract them to us.
              The most important is how the day is started. When I first heard about the Golden Hour and Wellness Morning I didn't pay too much attention, but starting to use them I have to admit that better than this I couldn't start to apply. The Golden Hour is the first hour after we wake up and it should be spent calmly, preparing ourselves for a great and productive day. It is the moment to energize, to plan and to motivate ourselves. For me the best practice is to read motivating, self-improving books, to check my schedule and to establish my goals for that day. Reading is very important for me, as it helps me to get some new ideas. But in this time of the day I prefer to read just books related to self-education, motivational materials for success or control over my life.
            Wellness morning is something what i need to improve, because I can apply just when I have plenty of time before starting my activities. This implies exercises, which are very important and make a big difference for the health and disposition. That's true that laziness has to be eliminated, but the benefits are more than we ever thought. It needs just initiative and perseverance.
            These ideas can seem minimalist or simple but SMALL THINGS ARE CNTRIBUTING TO BIG SUCCESSES.

Looking back for a moment

       LOOKING BACK is something I don't like to do as I consider that we should look every time forward, let the past, because it can't be changed, but corrected with our acts in the future.  Despite this, i will look now back, because today is the last day of August, and the month what follows will be a tranzit-month for me, which scares me a little bit.
      Almost nobody likes the turns which change our lives, because it's more comfortable to live as we are used to, but changes are inevitable...and changes are parts of our lives' evolution. We need changes, even though at the beginning they seem to affect us. In the last months I was terrified of how will go on my life beginning with October, as everything will change, but I realized that fear is useless, because there is everytime solution and things are happening with purpose. In that moment when we have enough courage to face the truth about what will follow, it won't seem so terrifying.

      Sometimes it's good to look back and analyze how we felt about problems which are resolved now, to can realize that all the anxiety we felt for this was useless and it just caused bad moments and tense reactions.  The problems are comming uninvited, they are part of our lives, a very active part, so we cannot hide from them, it's a mistake to do that. Solutions can be found for everything if we search them, or we create them. It needs just determination and motivation to go out and do great things. If not we will have to watch as others are doing great things and finally we will become frustrated, envious and bitter.
      If changes of life would be welcomed and treated positively we would make our life much easier and adapting ourselves quickly to the new conditions is the best we can do. Sooner or later the purpose of the change will make itself understandable, but until that it is necessary a good doze of optimism, patience, willingness to act and desire to have a better life.

A captivating novel - The Aviary Gate

      I read this novel two years ago, after I discovered it in the small town-library from Beaconsfield. It catches my eyes and as I saw in the short presentation from the cover of the book that it is based on Oriental historical events, I took it immediately. It was a very good decision, because even after two years I consider it a great book, and I recommend it. One of my friends mentioned that she is reading it and it is a wonderful lecture, so I decided to write down some ideas, because it would be a waste to lose them.
      The novel is structured in two stories, on different temporal, spacial levels and of different cultural backgrounds. It gives an insight to the exotic and mysterious world of the sultan's harem in Istanbul from the year 1599, but also in the dilemmas of the modern life in England. Both stories are built around two female characters, who lived in different epochs, different cultures, one represents the woman of the past and the other is the example of the contemporary woman,  and had totally different fates, but the narrative brings their lives very close at a certain moment.
      Reading this novel is like a constant travel in time. The temporal contrast is very well accentuated by the two women, Celia and Elisabeth. Curiously, their characters are not realized with the same intensity. We will discover a well-built and tragic character in Celia, but Elisabet's characterization is fade, indirect, the reader has to discover independent her personality. Celia's story dominates the narrative, Elisabet's is quite sketchy, spiced with romance.The differences won't stop here. Istanbul, the city has an important role in the lives of these women. For Celia it means slavery and she will find her tragic end there, but for Elisabeth it is a place for escape, for discovery and romance.
      After a shocking beginning, the book captivates the attention providing interesting details from the Oriental world and culture. We get a vivid picture of the seclusion of the harem, giving the impression of realism. The reader enters to a forbidden place, where almost nobody had access. It is a mysterious place webbed with intrigues, gossip, drama, hopelessness and betray.
      'The Aviary Gate is an impressing, captivating novel, which offers an exquisite travel in time, space and culture.

Facts of Life: Stop for a moment!

Facts of Life: Stop for a moment!: We might think very often that our daily schedule overwhelms us, there is no time, energy, or willingness to discover the beauty of life....

Stop for a moment!

We might think very often that our daily schedule overwhelms us, there is no time, energy, or willingness to discover the beauty of life. In this way life will pass near us, without that we sense how much we lose and time is irreversible; when we will understand what we lost it can be too late to retrieve all the wasted things because of not giving enough attention to small things. Small things are making our life complete; a smile, a flower, a sunset or sunrise, beautiful moments with the beloved person and family, a good word to somebody, and it can be mentioned an unlimited list consisting all the things which are free, near us, they wait just to be seen and appeciated to can bring light in our life.
If we would follow some easy rules, I would better calm them advices, our life would could be changed, without that we wait for a miracle. We should let the miracles for those people who really need it, and let's have a better life. Therefore, My  suggestion is to consider the following thoughts, stop for a moment in our run after money or in our struggle to survive and give chance for a better life:
LIFE IS A GIFT FROM GOD, SO WE SHOULD BE GRATEFUL FOR IT AND APPRECIATE IT.
EVERY DAY IS A NEW BEGINNING, A NEW CHANCE.
OUR LIFE IS AS WE WANT IT TO BE.
NOTHING IS HAPPENING WITHOUT PURPOSE.
THE WORLD IS FULL WITH BEAUTIES, THEY JUST NEED TO BE NOTICED.
TREAT THE OTHERS AS YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED.

Give yourself a day off to worry, go and discover  how better can be the world looked at and perceived positively. We have just one life, so we have to live it intensely, helping the others, laugh and appreciate every moment, thing which can bring joy and happiness.

Confused in a crazy world

         Most of the people have to fight for everything in life. To get a job, a place at the university, for the living of every day, for the family, for success, and everything which is essential or complementary in their lives. Those who doesn't understand what I mean are just simply careless about their lives or they have everything, and they can get anything without effort.
         I consider myself lucky with those people who have to fight to survive and to succeed, and they know how to do it. I think it is a goal supreme to become a really good 'fighter', because that means that every moment of the life has a purpose, and every time you reach it a new one will be generated. In this way life has sense, it is motivated. But what happens when we put the question 'What do we fight for? Why do we need this?'
        In this moment, when we put these questions something will happen. If the goals which guide our life are firm, probably nothing will happen, but if these questions will weaken the faith in the sense of our life, it can cause big changes. Realizing that the direction of our life is wrong, or it brings in the midst can be terrifying. It gives the feeling that we are in tunnel which brings you in the unknown or that we are in a labyrinth from here the exit is almost impossible to find. In this phase we will feel that our own goals are keeping us prisoner, we are controlling our lives through them.
       That is the moment when many things can change...in good or bad...it depends just on the decision we take.
       

Discovering a new favourite writer-Isabel Allende

I'm choosing carefully my favourite writer, and usually after reading several works, but it seems that I just picked up the right novel from Isabel Allende. However, I'm sure that very soon i will read more from her works as with the first one my attention was captivated and I can state that she became one of my favourites. This feminist writer originary from Chile, but living nowadays in California has an interesting and adventurous life, she is a wife, mother, grandmother, friend and last but not least a succesfull, bestselling author and according to her in every novel she is exploring a part of herself, in every story lies something more or less from her.

I have just finished her novel entitled 'The Sum of Our Days' and it had a great impact on me.Isabel Allende has the gift to tell some facts which will become personal for the reader, will make him/her to think, to see life with different eyes and to be more grateful for what he/she has. This impressive memoir presents her family, where each member have a very complex personality, sometimes even scandalous, though they are a great team, a 'tribe', as the writer defines it.
The narrative is very vivacious, giving an insight to the sorrows and joys of this unique family. It presents different moments of their lives, being very much concentrated on the pain of losing the beloved Paula, Isabel's daughter, to whom she is addressing directly in the novel very often. Sometimes it seems as a letter to Paula, telling what happened after her departure.

'The Sum of Our Days' is not a good memoir to read, it is an example of how to go on in life after a big loss, how to remember and have the memory of the beloved dead person with you every day without feeling pain, but acceptance, it is an experience of life. She writes about love, death, spiritualism, drug addiction and orher aspects of life without making judgements, but making to reflect. Reading this novel wasn't just a lecture, it was an experience, and my next aquisition will be Isabel's novel 'Paula', written in the memory of her dead daughter, because I'm sure that she has very much more to offer with every novel, and especially with the memoir of her daughter.