Why Herbalife?

        This is the question what I'm asking myself for almost five months and every time I got something new to add, a new reason why I chose this new lifestyle. If it is healthy or efficient is not a debate anymore. Milions of people from all the world are consuming, top sport representatives are recommending, a laureate of the Nobel prize in Medicine and very famous doctors, nutritionists are developing these products. And even like this my own experience and results with the consumption of Herbalife is making me proud that I chose this lifestyle. First time in my life I could lose weight without feeling hunger, without being frustrated because I have to renounce on my favourite foods. First time in my life I'm losing weight, but in the same time I have a lot of energy, I'm much more active than before, and after every day and every month I feel more and more motivated to have a healthy lifestyle, to learn more and more about nutrition, to be healthy and to help others to be healthy and pleased with their lives. And I feel that this is just the beginning.
        However, I knew that there is much more behind the trust in the products and in the company. I wanted to discover and to define the reason what will keep me motivated and trustful in Herbalife. And finding it was a process. A process which revealed me that actually I wasn't searching the motives to trust Herbalife, but the motives to trust myself. I mean Herbalife is there for everybody with its great products and mission to change people's lives, but it's us, who don't want to realize and take the great opportunity for a majore change.
         The best way to find the trust in myself was when I decided to open my mind and accept that a better life is not something sci-fi and actually it will be possible if I believe that it can happen. In that moment I became open to new things and I recognized the chance offered by Herbalife and signed the licence. Athough the firs step was made, the mind is still sending the deviating messages which start with "what if...?". At this point is really necessary to find the true reason for the choice we made, but this is possible just staying close to people who passed over these difficulties and in a motivating, positive environment. All this was offered together with the licence and even much more. A personal coach helped me with the weight-control program, a whole team offered ther friendships and the educational system taught step by step how to work and what to do to can help other people to be healty and wealthy. And even like this I needed more than four months to realize why I want this lifestyle and the job of wellness consultant.

         There are four things which helped me to clear my vision about why I want it and what I want from it. The personal results, the performant educational system, the histories of succesful people and the unique humane mission of the company. Attending the trainings and events called Tour of Experts I realized that successful people achieved wealth and recognition by making healthy and wealthy many other people. At this level their results are not impressing just by the big amounts they earn month by month, but their team of distribuitors, who are grateful for the chance they got for a better life and the big number of clients who are grateful for being healthier. I was really amazed how noble, generous and modest are all the experts, how much attention they are giving even to the 'smallest' person, and I learnt from them that the first thing we have to do for success is to love people and to want to help them. This mission can change the world if there will be enough believers, who will take action based on these principles.
         Where on Earth can we find wealthy people, who gained their wealth by helping the others to become healthy, wealthy and happy? I'm convinced now that the answer is: WHERE EXITS HERBALIFE.

       

Strong focus=Force for action

   

     When I remember how I was one year ago I have to admit that I lke the difference. Because in normal conditions I would be sleeping or craving for my bed after a very tiring nightshift like I had tonight. But I'm not anymore in normal conditions, because I know what I want and how to get it. So despite of sleeping I'm having a hidratating mask on my face and I'm preparing to drink my delicious vanillia shake, feeling very enthusiastic about the training which will follow in one hour.
     Even though I like very much this attitude, sometimes I'm asking myself how did I arrive to be so positive and optimistic, because I wasn't characterized at all with these qualities, and even in the last period I had a decay from optimism. I'm quite sure that this is the result of defining my goals and the strong wish to transform them in reality.
     I can tell now that it's not a big deal. However, concentration on goals is essential, because these qualities can be easily lost. But I have very clearly set what I want and I know that this training will contribute to achieve it. So I don't feel tired at all. As I came out from the office at 9 a.m. the tiredness was left there. 

Doing what I like

     

              All my life I had the wish to be independent, to have a professionally active lifestyle which will allow me to live as I dream. I had to realize that this implies to define my goals, to make a plan how to realize them and take the right action to achieve these goals. So far so good, this seems to be easy at the beginning, but actually it is not.Taking te initiative and the courage to start something new, something mine is the first step toward my dreams, but it took many years for me to realize this.
               I truly believe in the saying that "DO WHAT YOU LIKE  AND YOU WON'T WORK EVEN ONE DAY IN YOUR LIFE". I don't presume that it will be easy to have the dream-job, actually I think that it's an enormous challenge just to realize what is exactly the profession which has the capacity to fulfill dreams and expectations. It's a process to find it, or many times it is not achievable in traditional ways, so it has to be created. I know it sounds weird to create a job, but people with initiative know what I mean and in the next posts of this blog this idea will get sense, because I want to give it a personalized sense.
              My experience reflects that ideas and solutions are comming very often from unexpected sources. Important was for me that I knew to recognize the chance and to not get scared when the challenges and difficlties are appearing. There are opportunities which can work just after time, much work and study, development, self-improvement and persistence. So working part-time near a full-time job is a good option. This is the way I want to do, heading toward what I want, following a plan. I don't want to dream anymore, I want to plan. When I arrived to realize that I can't have a life which implies continous fight for a living, waiting desperately for the salary and being forced to take second jobs to can make economy or to can afford a cheap holiday one time in a year, I knew that there is no way back and I have to take action in this sense. I want to work hard, but doing something what I like and what brings benefits to me.
             This blog is part of my future project, I have a passion for writing, but I had lack of inspiration. I didn't know about what exactly I want o write, so my posst were poor and quite mediocre until now. My purpose is to share ideas which can help people or which can motivate for personal development. This idea is also an impuls after I started reading motivational and personal development materials and realized how much I enjoy them because they are offering practical solutions and advices for how to face challenges and transform them in success.

             But as I mentioned writing this blog will be the most pleasant part, which will help me to keep motivated and focused, but my main interest is around health, wellness and self-education. Why health and wellness? I have a personal reason, which is my permanent desire from childhood to have normal weight and no health problems. From the age of 15 I'm fighting with the extra weight, but this problem exists in my life from the time I was born, however in childhood it wasn't so disturbing. In the last ten years I had tried many diets, I tried to make sport, and very often I had success, but none of them lasted and finally I regained in a shorter or longer period the lost kilos. This continuous weight fluctuation affected my disposition, my health, my lifestyle and my self-confidence. As a result, I became very frustrated and one year ago I decided that I don't care about the weight, just about eating healthy. This was a wrong step, especially because what I thought about eating healthy wasn't as good for my body as I thought, even though I was very well read and documented about this subject. All my efforts for establishing a healthy lifestyle weren't successful, so I arrived last year in November to weigh 84 kg. My luck was that I found the best way for my body and lifestyle to lose weight healthily and I learnt so much about nutrition, that I adopted a new lifestyle which had a great influence also on my personality, my relations with the others and on my professional life. I have so much to share about this subject that there will be many posts regarding this, especially that I'm convinced there are millions of people having the same or similar problems as myself.
             The subject of self-education is closely connected to wellness and feeling great in every domain of life. Education is the basis on which we are building all our life, and as strong is the basis as persistent and great will be the building. But the most important is the willingness to develop every day our skills, to try to make something better than yesterday. And self-education gets here a majore role, because our capacity to learn from diferrent sources, I mean here didactic and non-didactic ones, will make the difference. Of course it is very important that we choose well these sources, because there are many misleading and wrong sources, and I will try to share every book, experience or other people's experiences which contributed to my improvement. I'm becomming a good amateur in learning from other's successes or mistakes, because these seem to me much more constructive than any theoretical knowledge.
             I'm very enthusiastic about this project and I hope that it will help many people to realize how important is to have a HEALTHY MIND IN A HEALTHY BODY. I  hope that my example will serve as motivation and I will be on the disposition of anybody who has questions or wants help. 

Change yourself by changing your mind and the way you think

               This is an advice worthy to follow, actually it could be a rule to apply every day. From the time I discovered that it works, my life changed very much. Following the principle of THINK POSITIVE AND POSITIVE THINGS WILL HAPPEN made a big difference in my life.
               Many people can ask how could this work. My best argument is that we feel and our disposition is how we want. If from the morning we set our mind that we will have a good day, than it will be good. Of course we should know what are the things that can make our day a good one. Once we know it, our mind will be set to do those things, so the success is much more probable than as if we would start in the morning thinking about what we can't do. As much we wish positive things to happen, we will attract them to us.
              The most important is how the day is started. When I first heard about the Golden Hour and Wellness Morning I didn't pay too much attention, but starting to use them I have to admit that better than this I couldn't start to apply. The Golden Hour is the first hour after we wake up and it should be spent calmly, preparing ourselves for a great and productive day. It is the moment to energize, to plan and to motivate ourselves. For me the best practice is to read motivating, self-improving books, to check my schedule and to establish my goals for that day. Reading is very important for me, as it helps me to get some new ideas. But in this time of the day I prefer to read just books related to self-education, motivational materials for success or control over my life.
            Wellness morning is something what i need to improve, because I can apply just when I have plenty of time before starting my activities. This implies exercises, which are very important and make a big difference for the health and disposition. That's true that laziness has to be eliminated, but the benefits are more than we ever thought. It needs just initiative and perseverance.
            These ideas can seem minimalist or simple but SMALL THINGS ARE CNTRIBUTING TO BIG SUCCESSES.

Looking back for a moment

       LOOKING BACK is something I don't like to do as I consider that we should look every time forward, let the past, because it can't be changed, but corrected with our acts in the future.  Despite this, i will look now back, because today is the last day of August, and the month what follows will be a tranzit-month for me, which scares me a little bit.
      Almost nobody likes the turns which change our lives, because it's more comfortable to live as we are used to, but changes are inevitable...and changes are parts of our lives' evolution. We need changes, even though at the beginning they seem to affect us. In the last months I was terrified of how will go on my life beginning with October, as everything will change, but I realized that fear is useless, because there is everytime solution and things are happening with purpose. In that moment when we have enough courage to face the truth about what will follow, it won't seem so terrifying.

      Sometimes it's good to look back and analyze how we felt about problems which are resolved now, to can realize that all the anxiety we felt for this was useless and it just caused bad moments and tense reactions.  The problems are comming uninvited, they are part of our lives, a very active part, so we cannot hide from them, it's a mistake to do that. Solutions can be found for everything if we search them, or we create them. It needs just determination and motivation to go out and do great things. If not we will have to watch as others are doing great things and finally we will become frustrated, envious and bitter.
      If changes of life would be welcomed and treated positively we would make our life much easier and adapting ourselves quickly to the new conditions is the best we can do. Sooner or later the purpose of the change will make itself understandable, but until that it is necessary a good doze of optimism, patience, willingness to act and desire to have a better life.

A captivating novel - The Aviary Gate

      I read this novel two years ago, after I discovered it in the small town-library from Beaconsfield. It catches my eyes and as I saw in the short presentation from the cover of the book that it is based on Oriental historical events, I took it immediately. It was a very good decision, because even after two years I consider it a great book, and I recommend it. One of my friends mentioned that she is reading it and it is a wonderful lecture, so I decided to write down some ideas, because it would be a waste to lose them.
      The novel is structured in two stories, on different temporal, spacial levels and of different cultural backgrounds. It gives an insight to the exotic and mysterious world of the sultan's harem in Istanbul from the year 1599, but also in the dilemmas of the modern life in England. Both stories are built around two female characters, who lived in different epochs, different cultures, one represents the woman of the past and the other is the example of the contemporary woman,  and had totally different fates, but the narrative brings their lives very close at a certain moment.
      Reading this novel is like a constant travel in time. The temporal contrast is very well accentuated by the two women, Celia and Elisabeth. Curiously, their characters are not realized with the same intensity. We will discover a well-built and tragic character in Celia, but Elisabet's characterization is fade, indirect, the reader has to discover independent her personality. Celia's story dominates the narrative, Elisabet's is quite sketchy, spiced with romance.The differences won't stop here. Istanbul, the city has an important role in the lives of these women. For Celia it means slavery and she will find her tragic end there, but for Elisabeth it is a place for escape, for discovery and romance.
      After a shocking beginning, the book captivates the attention providing interesting details from the Oriental world and culture. We get a vivid picture of the seclusion of the harem, giving the impression of realism. The reader enters to a forbidden place, where almost nobody had access. It is a mysterious place webbed with intrigues, gossip, drama, hopelessness and betray.
      'The Aviary Gate is an impressing, captivating novel, which offers an exquisite travel in time, space and culture.

Facts of Life: Stop for a moment!

Facts of Life: Stop for a moment!: We might think very often that our daily schedule overwhelms us, there is no time, energy, or willingness to discover the beauty of life....

Stop for a moment!

We might think very often that our daily schedule overwhelms us, there is no time, energy, or willingness to discover the beauty of life. In this way life will pass near us, without that we sense how much we lose and time is irreversible; when we will understand what we lost it can be too late to retrieve all the wasted things because of not giving enough attention to small things. Small things are making our life complete; a smile, a flower, a sunset or sunrise, beautiful moments with the beloved person and family, a good word to somebody, and it can be mentioned an unlimited list consisting all the things which are free, near us, they wait just to be seen and appeciated to can bring light in our life.
If we would follow some easy rules, I would better calm them advices, our life would could be changed, without that we wait for a miracle. We should let the miracles for those people who really need it, and let's have a better life. Therefore, My  suggestion is to consider the following thoughts, stop for a moment in our run after money or in our struggle to survive and give chance for a better life:
LIFE IS A GIFT FROM GOD, SO WE SHOULD BE GRATEFUL FOR IT AND APPRECIATE IT.
EVERY DAY IS A NEW BEGINNING, A NEW CHANCE.
OUR LIFE IS AS WE WANT IT TO BE.
NOTHING IS HAPPENING WITHOUT PURPOSE.
THE WORLD IS FULL WITH BEAUTIES, THEY JUST NEED TO BE NOTICED.
TREAT THE OTHERS AS YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED.

Give yourself a day off to worry, go and discover  how better can be the world looked at and perceived positively. We have just one life, so we have to live it intensely, helping the others, laugh and appreciate every moment, thing which can bring joy and happiness.

Confused in a crazy world

         Most of the people have to fight for everything in life. To get a job, a place at the university, for the living of every day, for the family, for success, and everything which is essential or complementary in their lives. Those who doesn't understand what I mean are just simply careless about their lives or they have everything, and they can get anything without effort.
         I consider myself lucky with those people who have to fight to survive and to succeed, and they know how to do it. I think it is a goal supreme to become a really good 'fighter', because that means that every moment of the life has a purpose, and every time you reach it a new one will be generated. In this way life has sense, it is motivated. But what happens when we put the question 'What do we fight for? Why do we need this?'
        In this moment, when we put these questions something will happen. If the goals which guide our life are firm, probably nothing will happen, but if these questions will weaken the faith in the sense of our life, it can cause big changes. Realizing that the direction of our life is wrong, or it brings in the midst can be terrifying. It gives the feeling that we are in tunnel which brings you in the unknown or that we are in a labyrinth from here the exit is almost impossible to find. In this phase we will feel that our own goals are keeping us prisoner, we are controlling our lives through them.
       That is the moment when many things can change...in good or bad...it depends just on the decision we take.
       

Discovering a new favourite writer-Isabel Allende

I'm choosing carefully my favourite writer, and usually after reading several works, but it seems that I just picked up the right novel from Isabel Allende. However, I'm sure that very soon i will read more from her works as with the first one my attention was captivated and I can state that she became one of my favourites. This feminist writer originary from Chile, but living nowadays in California has an interesting and adventurous life, she is a wife, mother, grandmother, friend and last but not least a succesfull, bestselling author and according to her in every novel she is exploring a part of herself, in every story lies something more or less from her.

I have just finished her novel entitled 'The Sum of Our Days' and it had a great impact on me.Isabel Allende has the gift to tell some facts which will become personal for the reader, will make him/her to think, to see life with different eyes and to be more grateful for what he/she has. This impressive memoir presents her family, where each member have a very complex personality, sometimes even scandalous, though they are a great team, a 'tribe', as the writer defines it.
The narrative is very vivacious, giving an insight to the sorrows and joys of this unique family. It presents different moments of their lives, being very much concentrated on the pain of losing the beloved Paula, Isabel's daughter, to whom she is addressing directly in the novel very often. Sometimes it seems as a letter to Paula, telling what happened after her departure.

'The Sum of Our Days' is not a good memoir to read, it is an example of how to go on in life after a big loss, how to remember and have the memory of the beloved dead person with you every day without feeling pain, but acceptance, it is an experience of life. She writes about love, death, spiritualism, drug addiction and orher aspects of life without making judgements, but making to reflect. Reading this novel wasn't just a lecture, it was an experience, and my next aquisition will be Isabel's novel 'Paula', written in the memory of her dead daughter, because I'm sure that she has very much more to offer with every novel, and especially with the memoir of her daughter.

Is LOVE blind?

    Speaking with somebody whose romantic life was quite complicated in the last year made me think about this. Considering more this issue I had to realize that she is not just the only one from my friends who was involved in a relationship which wasn't working, and even like this the partners weren't able to broke up. Looking from outside this kind of relationships we wouldn't be able to understand why they are keeping together, if they can't be happy anymore. I asked for several times these people, why they don't broke up and most frequently the answer was: 'I still love him/her'. It sounds pathetic when this kind of words are coming from people who were involved in a relationship which made them to suffer, to lose self-confidence or even it was humiliating them.
   Is this feeling really out of our control? I can't imagine how can somebody love a person who is hurting him/her or humiliating him/her voluntarily? Nobody gave me a logic explanation. Why is it accepted this situation? Is it so difficult to realize that after a major incidence the couple's life won't be never like before? Or is it just me who is overreacting this? I'm convinced that every relationship should be built on mutual respect, good communication and honesty. Without these I can't see how could be harmony in a couple's life. Of course there are many other important factors which can influence a relationship, but if these three exist problems can be resolved.
   Anybody who has an answer for my questions, please comment because sometimes I don't know how to advice my friends in this kind of situations. I simply can't understand why do they allow to suffer in the name of love. Why can love mean pain and humiliation for some people?

Captivated by "Lost"

   I was never into American series, but "Lost" took my attention after a few episodes and I think that now I don"t have escape, I will have to follow it until the end, if all the seasons will prove to be as interesting as the first two seasons. The most captivating for me are the characters, more than the action itself. Everybody's psychological identity is built complex, revealed step by step, The insight in the past is inserted in the right time, giving a clue about what follows, and what is very interesting that every character has it's role and place in the story.
   Arriving until the first episodes of the second season I can't figure out what will happen, probably that's why I am still interested to continue to watch. It's curious that the characters appear very different after the crush, surviving at the island, than they are showed in the sequences of their past lives. Will the island really change them, or sooner or later their real personality will come on the surface? Of course, if they don't die. It seems that  with the tragedy what they lived at the time of the plane crush and arrival of the island, some of the survivors are getting a new chance in their lives. The question is: they will ba able to use it?

   The main figures of the series are haunted by their past, tormented by their subconsciousness, when their major problem should be to survive in an unknown place, surrounded from everywhere with danger. However, they are totally strangers for each other, the flight was the only common thing between them at the beginning, but at the island their fate seems to be linked, and apparently a connection start to be created between their present and also their past.This is what makes difference from the other American series: psychological exploration.

Post-Easter thoughts

Easter...it seems to me one of the most controversial events/holidays of the year. It would imply to live too many emotions if we want to interpret it in the religious point of view. It implies many oppositions like death-resurrection, pain-joy, sadness-happiness, etc. It's quite confusing, and possibly many people will never get into the religious meaning of Easter. I think I'm one of them. This year meant for me to spend more time with my family and my closest friends, not to suffer and revive after that.
Probably it's not the right attitude for celebrating Easter, but I didn't want to feel depressed at all in this few days I had on my disposition to spend with my family, so I didn't really think about the religious meaning. I know it's wrong, but I tried to ignore it. Sometimes the purpose of the holiday is over-dramatized, people thinking that if they assume the pain and sufferance of Jesus, they can purify themselves. I'm not convinced that this is true. I don't demand it to be wrong, everybody can decide alone in what to believe, but somebody's life or personality can't be changed just by overtaking the pains of the person considered the salvation of the humanity.
 

Results of unshared problems

Just after it happened we can realize how mistaken we were. Struggling with the thought that actually it shouldn't happen this, it wasn't so serious the problem that caused all this mess. But no, it should be said those things, just that some people can't understand sometimes the meaning . Therefore they are accusing that all this drama is for nothing,
I'm not a drama queen, I don't like to exaggerate, that is why I feel outraged when I am not listened or my rights are denied. But this can really hurt when a beloved person is doing this to you. I am deeply convinced that communication is the key to resolve an argument. But when it arrives to be more than an argument what shall be done?
Ignoring the other, avoiding the problem is an error. Losing the temper can be fatal in the solution of the problem. My experiences of the past confirms this. In the heat of the quarrel there can be said things which will be felt as a stab in the heart. This time I didn't say nothing what I will regret, I wanted just to be listened when I decided to share my fears. But they would find deaf ears. I didn't want to transform it at all in an argument, just a discussion which was supposed to make better our lives. Everything became a mess, feeling miserable and lonely.

 I hate to feel like this, by trying to find consolation, I have to realize that it's not the end of my life, I would always go ahead, but it's not the time to let things to end this way. We shared so much things, good and bad, but good moments were much more than difficult ones. This should be kept as a key in taking decisions. It can be fury, disappointment, rage in the heart, but remembering the unique moments all these feelings can soften. Rage and disappointment are very bad advisers, never should take decisions while they are controlling our emotions.
Waiting is the challenge now. Who will make the first step? Or it was already done, just that it was refused? Tomorrow is another day. It would be enough just a call, to feel that there is still something remained, waiting to be saved. What if tomorrow never comes? Or tomorrow will be a 'dark' day? Dilemmas which doesn't have sense, they are just poisoning the mind and soul.
TOMORROW IS ANOTHER DAY...

We can do it!

Probably I will seem a feminist...perhaps it is right, but i am convinced that every women have the same rights as men, deserve the respect and consideration for what they are and for what they are capable. Of course, everybody is different, but our acts, words, strengths, weaknesses  and personality should determine how men are judging us or appreciating us, and not the fact that we are WOMEN.
I would like to believe that living in the 21 century, in the EU, surrounded with many powerful women's example, the discrimination against women is not a problem in our society. Unfortunately it is, and quite a big problem. Day by day we can hear about women fallen victims of domestic violence, discrimination at the work place and many other situations in which they are humiliated, underestimated or simply ignored.
WHY CAN HAPPEN THIS EVEN WITH THOSE WOMEN WHO WERE BROUGHT UP WITH THE PRINCIPLE OF EQUALITY BETWEEN SEXES?
My answer is BECAUSE THEY ALLOW IT. I know it sounds cynical, but it depends just on women how much they respect and appreciate themselves. Many would say that it is easy to affirm this, but the circumstances can oblige one to do or to accept things which hurt and degrade them. I think that actually they are just afraid to change, afraid of being free and owner on their lives. Many of my friends, members of my family experienced this, and I arrived to the conclusion that the best solution against this is protecting our independence and dignity. Independence is again a term which could be widely debated. I mean under this, that every woman should have a security on both sentimental and material level, a sort of plan B for the case she will remain alone.
 I believe that an independent, strong woman with dignity and high self-esteem will know to handle any kind of situation. However it is hard to become a woman like that. Most of us don't have the luck to 'inherit' these attributes, and will have to get after a training of the life, which usually is hard. We should consider our freedom and dignity as one the most precious values, and our life can be so much different from our moms or from all those whose experiences we don't want to share.
We have right to the chance to create a good living, to express our opinions and to take the decisions for our own life. Perhaps in this way men will understand and consider us as equals and as partners.

Which is the right way?

I'm wondering what should I do with my life. There are so many dreams, goals in my life, but i can't see how they can be fulfilled. It is painful to realize that indifferently of studies and personal skills there are no chances to start a career without a good material background.
I'm sure that millions of young people from all over the world are sharing my fears regarding the future. It's unfair that all depends on money, good personal contacts or luck, but without these, knowledge, studies and competence means almost nothing in finding a good job. Two years before I was much more confident and optimistic, I thought that Romanian people are taking the habit to complain and to be satisfied, and actually it depends on everybody's willingness to find a good job. Nowadays I got convinced that it doesn't depend on how much I want to have a good job, but how many people I know who has a certain influence at a company.
My problem is that I barely know anybody in this city, and in my hometown there are even less chances for a career than here.
I asked myself many many times what am I doing wrong? Why others can and I can't find the way ? ...
In spite of disappointment and fails I taught myself that every bad thing which doesn't kill me, it will strengthen me. I arrived to the conclusion that if I don't get the chance for a career, I will build one for myself, even though it will be very hard at the beginning, This should be the way.
Every young person, who is looking for a better future, should decide what is the purpose in his or her life, what can be the motivation, and than fight for it, to keep firm in this and the results will come with time.
THE MOST IMPORTANT IS TO NEVER GIVE UP!!!